Bridges Not Barriers

Why do so many people stay away from church, and what can believers do about it?

Millions of people have distanced themselves from church or walked away from faith altogether. In Bridges, Not Barriers, Derrick Kitayiga explores the underlying reasons and offers a hopeful, practical way forward.

Drawing on personal experience, Scripture, current research, and honest conversations, Kitayiga examines how churches-often with the best intentions-can unintentionally create obstacles that leave people feeling unseen, unwelcome, or misunderstood. Rather than assigning blame, he invites readers into a thoughtful process of self-examination and renewal.

The book is organized into three sections: Understanding the Barriers, The Wounds That Drive People Away, and Building Bridges That Last. Each section combines insight with practical application, guiding readers to recognize hidden barriers, respond with empathy, and foster genuine connection rooted in Christ's love.

Bridges, Not Barriers includes reflective questions and actionable guidance designed to help individuals and churches rebuild trust, extend authentic hospitality, and refocus on welcoming people to Jesus, not merely into a building.

This book will appeal to believers seeking to understand why friends or family resist church, church leaders concerned about disengagement, and thoughtful readers who remain curious about Jesus despite past hurt. Compassionate, honest, and constructive, it offers a timely invitation to stop guarding the gates and start building bridges that lead to lasting faith and belonging.