Not By Choice Then Whose Choice is it to be Gay?

Not by Choice - Then Whose Choice is it to be Gay?

A new life journey starts when parents have questions if their child is gay, or when a young person begins to wonder why they feel different?

Finding reliable guidance can be difficult, and misinformation can sometimes create fear, misunderstanding, and division within families.

In this compassionate and thought-provoking book, Hercules Besterfield offers parents and families a structured and accessible approach to understanding what it means to be gay - and, importantly, how greater understanding can help create an environment of trust, love, acceptance, and belonging.

Rather than approaching the subject through fear or judgment, Besterfield encourages readers to become informed and to consider how understanding can strengthen family relationships. Drawing on his exploration of identity he asks important questions:

Where do these influences come from? And what takes their place?

The book also offers parents insights into the future - what their child may encounter while growing up- same-gender partnerships, marriage, adoption, and the reality of lifelong relationships.

At its heart, Not by Choice offers a message of hope: that being informed can help families move beyond uncertainty and toward greater understanding, acceptance, trust, and happiness.

Through a spiritual perspective, the book explores how gay children and young people can be understood and included in God's Good News-encouraging families to consider a path where love, dignity, and belonging have a place for everyone.

A thoughtful invitation to understand before judging, to listen before rejecting, and to discover how informed understanding can help build stronger, more loving families.