Should I Be a Co-Wife?

What if becoming a co-wife is not accepting less, but choosing a different kind of abundance?

For many Christian women, the possibility of plural marriage raises questions they have never been permitted to ask openly. Is polygyny biblical? Can a woman share a husband without surrendering her dignity? Could such a household offer genuine love, sisterhood, security, and purpose-or is jealousy destined to overwhelm it?

Should I Be a Co-Wife? approaches these questions without shame, evasion, or easy promises.

Grounded in Scripture and written specifically for women considering plural marriage, this practical guide examines both the blessings and responsibilities of joining a covenant household. It challenges the assumption that a co-wife must receive a smaller portion of marriage and explores how shared domestic responsibilities, expanded family support, complementary gifts, and enduring sisterhood can create a larger and more abundant household life.

Inside, you will learn how to:

• distinguish biblical teaching from modern cultural assumptions;
• examine your motives without treating desire as guilt;
• evaluate the character of the husband and the health of his existing marriage;
• understand provision, inheritance, civil status, and the rights of children;
• recognize coercion, instability, manipulation, and genuine warning signs;
• distinguish godly jealousy from rivalry, envy, and possessiveness;
• build trust and sisterhood with another wife;
• approach time, attention, domestic labor, parenting, and household structure wisely;
• prepare for family, church, and community reactions;
• and discern whether this life is truly something you want.

This book neither romanticizes plural marriage nor condemns it for being difficult. Instead, it offers a clear-eyed biblical framework for deciding whether a particular man, household, and calling are worthy of your trust.

You are not a lesser wife. You are not a consolation prize. And if this is the household you are called to help build, you are not accepting less.

You may be building something larger than you imagined.